Meet Blessing Adesiyan, Chemical Engineer and Founder/CEO of Mother Honestly
My goodness are we happy we connected with this inspiring mama of three. Blessing Adesiyan, born and raised in Nigeria, and lived all over the U.S. since coming here for college, considers herself a global citizen. However, she and her husband of ten years and three sweet babies now call Katy home.
Blessing is a badass, simply put. She’s a chemical engineer by day and also runs a platform called Mother Honestly, a platform that inspires, encourages and guides the modern ambitious woman to thrive in and beyond motherhood. Through online content, and offline activations, they aim to empower and elevate mothers to lead bigger, better and deeper lives.
Mother Honestly is full of support for mothers across their website and social media platforms and they also have a successful podcast.
What they’re really known for, however, are their mama summits. Started by Blessing when she was living in Detroit, it’s now a destination for moms to come to be inspired.
The Mother: The Summit 2020 will be held in Brooklyn, NY and is a two-day interactive experience that will inspire, empower and equip you with the tools, resources and infrastructure needed to align your goals and ambition with your role as a mother.
They provide women a holistic view on how to approach their lives in motherhood through engaging keynotes, workshops and fireside chats with the brightest and most inspiring leaders who will guide you to your greatest vision for your life and provide actionable steps towards making it a reality.
This Summit is for women, mothers, professionals, entrepreneurs and corporations who value female leaders and their role as mothers.
Blessing truly is a mama who does it all, but does it through honesty and through connecting in motherhood. She builds those up around her, which is what we need more of in this mamahood journey. We got to chat with Blessing about her career in engineering, her platform, and her best advice for moms who want to find their passion outside motherhood.
Where are you from originally and how long have you lived in Katy?
I like to think of myself as a global citizen. I was born and raised in Lagos, Nigeria. I came to the United States to attend college – the University of Florida. Upon graduation, I moved to Parkersburg, WV for my first job and since then, I have lived in at least eight cities across the country. We’ve lived in Katy for close to 5 months now, however we also lived in Sugar Land from 2014 – 2016 before moving to Detroit, Michigan, and then finding our way back to Texas.
You’re a mama! How many kiddos do you have and how old are they?
I have three kids. My first born is going to turn 11 in a few months, and my son turns two in a few weeks. My second daughter was born this past September, so I guess you can say I have my hands full.
What’s your favorite thing about raising a family in the Katy area?
We were looking to move back to Sugar Land when we decided to move back to Texas, however, after exhaustive searches for the perfect house and school for our kids, it became very clear that we needed to be in Katy. We love our neighborhood, the safety, beauty and convenience to our jobs. We are minutes away from La Centerra, Katy Mills, and lots of restaurants, it’s simply amazing to be here. Our kids have made new friends, ride their bike around the sub-division, I am training for the Chevron Houston Marathon and found a lovely trail right behind our house, it’s the little things that makes Katy so special to me.
Greatest gift about about being a mom?
My children are my greatest joy. They fill me with passion to get up and do my best work, live my best life by showing them what’s possible. As a working mother, it’s easy for me to get caught up in the guilt of not being available to them all of the time, but I also look at them and see how independent they have become not just physically but, in their thinking, and logic, I see how much they love and respect me and think the world of me because I have shown them who I truly am.
Least favorite mom job? (i.e. packing lunches, dishes, bath time, etc.)
It’s very weird, I love every aspect of any mom job there is. As long as I am doing it for my children, it brings me so much joy. However, I do a lot of outsourcing to enable me spend quality time with my kids.
One thing people would be surprised to know about you…
My dad is a pastor and I spent my childhood singing in the choir. I still love singing, it brings me so much joy.
Favorite local things to do in Katy/Richmond/Fulshear? (With kiddos or just for mom!)
I love going to Katy Mills, La Centerra and the local farmers market. It’s the best place to be with kids. I place the two kiddos in a stroller and my bigger kid walks alongside me talking my ears off.
Do you have a favorite family friendly restaurant in the area?
We rarely eat out as you can imagine with two kids under two, however, we love Ginger Thai on Cinco Ranch Blvd and Spring Green. I especially love their sushi and fried Red Snapper. My kids love their fried rice and soups.
Best mom hack that makes your life easier?
I do most of my cooking on Sundays after church, and portion them into bowls for the upcoming week. During the week, I simply microwave the bowl for dinner and place it on the center of the dining table for my family to dig in. It’s important to me that my family eat healthy home-cooked meals, it’s also important to me that I don’t stress myself in the process.
Tell us about your career outside of being a mom…
I am Chemical Engineer by trade. I also completed my Masters in Energy Management and hold an MBA degree from the UNC Kenan-Flagler Business School. I completed all of these degrees as a mother. Its true that we mamas can do hard things. Today, I work as a Supply Operations Manager for BASF, a chemical company. I am also the Founder of Mother Honestly, a platform that propels women forward in motherhood, work and life through content, podcast and a fast-growing conference.
You decided to start your platform Mother Honestly after the birth of your son- tell us the inspiration behind it and what your mission has been.
Absolutely. My son was 4-months and I was simply tired of the resources friends were sending my way at that point. Many of these amazing resources which were very useful revolved around my baby – lots of breastfeeding tips, and how to wear my baby, etc. There was nothing specifically for me as a person. Being an ambitious professional woman, I felt isolated during those 4-months of maternity leave which I was grateful to have especially since the United States is still the only developed country with no mandate for paid parental leave. However, I was craving for something else.
Motherhood is hard AF, we have so many competing priorities and we need to understand how being a mother affects our goals, dreams and ambition. I wanted someone to talk to me more about how my career and all the amazing things I want to achieve in motherhood. I was struggling with so many things at the time thinking about my return-to-work, will I be taken seriously at work after a new baby, what are the policies surrounding pumping at work, how do I support my dreams in this new phase of motherhood. All of this led me to starting a conversation on social media and within weeks, so many women starting sending me DMs saying they wished there was a platform that caters specifically to how they should be approaching their personal and professional lives in motherhood. That led to the launch of Mother Honestly, and in the last 18 months, we have grown to reach over 300,000 mothers through our podcast, content and conference. In 2018, we welcomed over 250 mothers to our first Mother: The Summit, and in 2019, we had over 500 moms come together to discuss possibilities for their lives in motherhood.
Tell us about the Mom Summits you do and the one coming up in 2020?
In 2020, we are headed to the Brooklyn Expo Center in New York where we are expecting over 1500 moms. Through keynotes, fireside chats, workshops, including lots of pampering and self-care sessions, we hope to empower women with the tools and resources they need to live a healthy, fulfilled and productive life as mothers. Its truly a blessing to lead such an amazing platform and to bring women together from various parts of the country to experience a highly curated gathering that elevates their lives as they navigate their role as mothers.
How important is community and honesty in motherhood for you?
Very important. I think that as mothers, we crave community. We are designed to depend on each other for physical, emotional and spiritual support. It’s why I wake up daily to host candid conversations on our social media channels. I know mamas need it. I also think whatever we do in motherhood, we need to do it honestly. That’s where that name Mother Honestly came from. I saw women comparing themselves to other women and how they raised their own kids, how they approached their careers, how they fed their family. If we are going to live up to our truest potential in motherhood, we must do what feels natural and true to us. That’s the only way we can truly achieve success and avoid burnout. I am not the mom who feeds her kids organic 100% of the time, I also don’t spend my time driving from one activities to another for the kids. I have embraced what works for me and I am truly happy.
Best advice for moms who stay at home, but want to get back out in the working world somehow?
Its important to transition to return to work with a clear understanding of what that looks like for you. You can return to a part-time position, work-from-home role, or a full-time gig. And of course, you can start your own business as well. No matter what you choose, know that your children will be fine. If you are looking for opportunities within the workplace, look into The Mom Project, a company that places women returning to work into respectable and flexible jobs.
How important is it for you to have a passion outside of being a mother?
We live in a world of possibilities, and I truly believe that every mother should live up to their limitless worth and potential in motherhood. As much as you are obsessed with your children and family, your dreams aren’t less important. In fact, they are now important more than ever because your children are watching. Whether you are a stay-at-home mom or working mom, its important to nurture your dreams. There are so many side projects and flexible work to consider if you are not sure of where to start.
Best advice for mom guilt?
From time to time, you will feel mom guilt. The truth is, no matter how supportive your spouse and support systems are, moms will always have a special place at home. So when mama is away from work, or feels she isn’t doing the right things for her children, its natural to feel the guilt. But here is how I combat that guilt – I tell myself that I am human, I love my children and I am doing the absolute best that I can for them. I also ask for help from my husband to ensure that I am more present for them. Sometimes, I feel sad not spending as much time with my bigger kid, so I ask my husband to watch the littles while I take her on an errand with me. That simple solution of chatting enroute Kroger or H-E-B wiped that guilt and got me back to a place of abundance.
Who has most influenced you to be the mom you are today?
I watch Michelle Obama and how she raised her girls and it completely inspires me. A mothers job is not to teach, its to be a role-model for our children and its what I strive for everyday. To show my children that they are my greatest accomplishments, and that I have dreams and hopes not just for them but for me, for our family and for our future. These qualities I see daily in the former first lady.
When parenting gets hard, what’s something you tell yourself that gets you through?
Parenting is tough for women, since we are most likely the default parent. And while we are starting to see more men step up at home, women still do majority of the household chores and activities for and with the children. That alone can make a mama pull her hair out sometimes. The truth is, I don’t tell myself anything. I simply ask for a true partnership or help to accomplish those tasks. My husband is my partner in this, and I routinely engage him in the activities for the week. I ask friends and family members to step in, or I outsource if I can afford it. Our society has made it okay for women to bully themselves into doing all of the things, and mamas are burning out, falling sick and feeling isolated without support. We need a different approach to parenting in America and it starts by not toughing it out, but my simply reaching out to our neighbors, friends and loved ones when we need support.
Name one thing you hope your kids look back and remember about their childhood and you as their mama?
I want them to remember how much I love them. I want them to remember our loving home, our weekend breakfast, which I absolutely make a big deal out of. I want them to see how much passion and excitement I brought into our home and how grateful I am that they came into our lives. I want them to look back and be proud of their mother and see possibilities for themselves the way I’ve seen possibilities in them and through them. I want them to go out and love their family, their work, their lives with vigor and energy.
Be sure to follow along with Blessing on social and her website and stay tuned for more information on the Mother Summit in 2020!
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Mother Honestly is the complete ecosystem for women to lead exciting and fulfilling lives in motherhood. Through content, podcast, and offline activations, they are aligning motherhood and ambition in a new way.